I was standing in a sheer panic in front of my wardrobe precisely 13 years ago. I could feel the hot flush coming and my mouth was so dry I couldn’t even speak. I could feel my make-up (that I so meticulously applied half an hour ago) slowly moving towards my knees. I would have happily indulged in a proper anxiety attack but I had to be out the door in less than 10 minutes if I was to make it on time. I was to attend an interview for my dream job and I was having an absolute meltdown. Why? Yeah, I had ‘nothing to wear’.
Well, there was actually plenty of clothes in that closet. I have been agonizing over what to wear since I got that call. I’ve been planning outfits in my head and rummaging through the wardrobe trying to nail the perfect outfit. I looked at my options in the morning of the interview and almost had a hysterical fit. Naive men don’t realize that when we, women, say we have nothing to wear, we are in no way implying that there is a shortage of clothes in our wardrobe. No, more likely than not what we are trying to communicate the following:
- We have nothing new
- There is nothing in the wardrobe that fits our current ‘mood’
- There are couple items that could have worked but we don’t have the shoes/skirt/top or whatever it might be missing that doesn’t allow us to complete the look.
That morning I was suffering from not one problem, but 2 of them – I wanted to look cool, sophisticated and effortless but all the options I was faced with that morning were falling painfully short of giving out that vibe. Any items that had the potential to deliver didn’t have the right companions to finish off the look.
In the perfect world I would have loved to tell you that at the last moment I pulled something out of my wardrobe, nailed the interview and got my dream job. The reality was not quiet as dreamy.
I settled for one of the looks and jumped in a taxi. I walked into the office of the company and got so overwhelmed by all the glamorous women! All of a sudden it felt like I didn’t fit in (oh sweet memories of teenage years!!). What did I do? … I walked out. Yep, I completely chickened out! I got so paralyzed by doubt which was triggered by not looking the part and made a conclusion as a result that I didn’t belong there. The embarrassment of leaving seemed like a much better option than the horrifying prospect of walking into that meeting room and trying to prove to someone that I am something I didn’t feel I was at the time.
Fast forward to today, that episode is still one of the most cringing memories of my adult life. I haven’t stopped beating myself up about it since that day. But when I sat down to write this post, it dawned on me that if I was to pinpoint one single moment in my life that jump-started my journey in the fashion industry, it would have to be that shameful day. As much as I’d love to erase it out of my memory, it was this particular experience that got me infected with the obsession to figure out how to never be stuck with nothing-to-wear dilemma again.
Have I found the answers? Yes and no.
The elusive ‘Perfect Wardrobe’ dream turned out to be different things for different people. But what I did discover are the strategies that can help you to build the wardrobe that works for YOU.
After all, I’d never want another woman to miss out on something amazing just because she didn’t have the right shoes or dress.
So what can you expect from Stylist’s Notes?
I’ve been dreaming of creating a style resource for years where women of all ages can come to and find practical information on all things style, fashion, wardrobe and shopping. While magazines are great for providing some inspiration, you won’t find a solid strategy there for developing your own style, building a functional wardrobe and shopping like a pro. I am hoping you’ll find the answers here.
So dig into the content now and enjoy!